How To Ensure That Your Child Doesn’t Ignores The Limit Set By You?

September 27, 2016

Kids have to agree with what they have been told to do even when they are not interested in doing it in the first place. The reason they are doing it is simply because you have setup certain limits and that too, in an effective manner. Be empathizing, and that’s what doing the trick.

Here are three steps to set a limit effectively:

  1. Set the limit, but don’t push your child, as that will have adverse effects on him/her.
  2. You have to offer your child some empathy in order to make out why he/she is doing such bad behave.
  3. Let your child know what he/she can do instead.

Ideally, these steps work great, but the problem comes when you are expecting your child to follow your instructions and he/she completely ignores it. Then, it is hard to stay on that ‘empathetic path’. Many parents snap and start yelling or threatening their children to get their children do what they want. But, that’s not the only way, neither is it the most appropriate approach to go about the issue.

  1. Set a reasonable limit: What if your limit is way too much for your child. So, listen to your child and re-evaluate the limit. If your child doesn’t like you holding his/her hand while both of you cross the street, then you must talk about it. It’s just that maybe she feels more comfortable in holding a bag that you are carrying along or maybe he/she can walk across the street without holding your hand. So, figure it out and then, modify your limit.
  2. If it is an inconsiderable limit, then insist your child on it: If you take your child to a local supermarket, and buy him/her a chocolate bar, then there is a huge chance that he/she will push you to have one more the next time you both go to the supermarket. So, if you have set a limit that don’t create a scene when we are out in the supermarket, then your child will ask you a couple of times, maybe grieve about it, but will accept the fact that he/she is not getting the chocolate bar again.
  3. Connect with your child: Don’t try to instruct your child from across the room to do a certain thing, instead reach out to him/her and then, say what you got to say. Caress his/her hair or make the child sit down gently while giving the instructions. Look him/her in the eye while you tell something to your child, as that will boost the connection between both of you.
  4. Don’t repeat the instructions: If you want to say anything to your child to make him/her stop from doing a certain thing, then just say it once. If you keep on repeating the same thing over and over again, then that’s what making your child ignorant of your instructions. He/she would stop when you say the same thing in the loudest of your voice.
  5. Don’t give up and give in: If you want to create a limit for your child, then you have to act like it. If your child is playing a sport on the road, and you think that he/she may get hurt, then you have to call him/her up back home. If he/she ignores your command the first time, then again should in a friendly and humorous way that, “Hey! You didn’t hear to what Mama/Papa said to you? Come back home, this sport is way too dangerous to play out on the road”. Don’t wait and don’t say this line in particular that, “OK, you want to play this game, huh? But, then don’t come to me crying when you get injured” because this line means that you have given in.
  6. Empathize: You have to acknowledge his/her desires, perspective. If he/she wants to stay up late to watch a particular show or movie, but you don’t think it’s good for your child, then say, “I know you want to see this show/movie, but it’s late and you must go to bed. When you grow up, you can watch TV all night long”. This way, your child sees that you acknowledged his/her perspective, but still, the rules aren’t changed.

Keep these things in mind and your little one will know the limit that you have set for him/her.

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  • Dammy
    February 06, 2017 at 1:55 pm

    Gosh Diana. You do know how to make parenting feel like an easy task. I wish my kids would take my instructions really serious. They could play outside for hours and will only come in when they wish not when I ask them to. I can't keep yelling and following them about. I'm gonna try some of these tips and see if there's an improvement.

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  • Maria
    December 10, 2017 at 1:59 am

    Child grooming is one of the toughest job as a parent and when you do it right you real the benefits of a completely obedient and respectful child and vice versa. I totally agree with your post about setting limits.

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